It was said that a person’s becoming in adulthood may have its roots in how the person was raised as a child. While this idea is now more of a traditional wisdom than a recent discovery, it really is hard to separate a man or woman from a child he or she had been.
Knowing that as a fact, every good person that has reached adulthood to this day has, without a doubt, been raised properly as a kid.
All parents want the best for their child. If you are a parent yourself or expecting to be one soon, I’m sure you would want your child to grow to be a better person, too, than one that goes the complete opposite.
Luckily, wanting to raise some good and loving children need not have to be like rocket science. There is no need for complicated formulas for this goal and it only takes the right setting and conditions for it to be achieved.
However, it is worth noting that grooming a child for his or her good qualities requires active effort on your part as a parent (parenting skills) and is not something that is inherited via a natural phenomenon.
- Be a Role Model
Every parent is any child’s mentor and role model, whether good or bad. If you want to rear a child to be of the good qualities (loving and kind), it takes you, as a parent, to have these qualities, too. With you taken as a role model, it is imperative that you show what you want to see in your child as they grow up: be kind and loving yourself to them and those around you.
- Be a Teacher
There is no better time to groom a child’s personality as a parent than his childhood. Apart from the child’s mimicking skill as part of his learning, a child also learns by direct teaching of the parent.
Although teaching a child about kindness and love is not something to do in a single day lest it proves futile for real understanding, teaching the kid over time of the same thing (rote learning) shows significant deep learning as he or she ages—you would be surprised to see one day that he or she would be teaching the same things to other children his or her age, too.
- Be a Demonstrator
In times that are appropriate and when words are less effective in teaching a child about the meaning of kindness and love, sometimes it takes a real demo of what the subject being taught is about.
While the idea overlaps with the previous two, to be a demonstrator is to actually apply on the subject, with or without the intent to teach—doing something so nice and natural, a child could pick up without the need for words.
- Surround the Child with Good People
Family may be any child’s exclusive world but there are also other people to whom a kid may be exposed with and something that he or she could learn from.
Although you may not be able to control those people that gathers around, you (mean children or misbehaving kids), as a parent, has the power to set your child’s circle of individuals for his development—preferably those whom you know and ones who share your values and virtues.